The Original Folks
EP 6: SINGLEHOOD (no content)
Hosts: Jade and Deniece
ABOUT THE EPISODE
In this episode, Jade and Deniece discuss "How to be single" with particular reference to Jade's experience as a single lady. Our hosts also highlight the benefits and important things to know about being single.
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EPISODE 6 PODCAST SHOW NOTES
[02:15] Talking about their previous episodes not being very organized, Deniece shares that they are working to adjust and be more organized in their discussions. She explains that to an extent it could be because naturally "Men are like waffles and women are like spaghetti" in the sense that men can compartmentalize in their minds, while women often have their thoughts interwoven. Jade however adds that this might be also a more common issue with very creative people.
[03:56] Jade describes her experience being single; growing up attending a girls' boarding school, she never got much exposure to boys and didn't think much about dating. This was added to the fact that her parents would not have approved of it. Jade also had brothers growing and build the impression that guys are mostly immature in their behavior.
[09:00] Deniece explains that people who get attached often have a void they are trying to fill, and they think they are seeking love. Although Jade was curious about relationships as a teenager, she was happy being single.
[15:10] Jade shares that the first few years being single after her first relationship were a bit difficult as she tried to get over being hurt and sad. This also made her generally doubtful of relationships.
[21:07] There is value in being able to love yourself and being okay spending time with yourself. Jade shares that a lot of her friends are quite independent. Deniece describes the freedom she had while single, allowing her to travel for weeks without having to explain to anyone. You can be alone but not lonely. It is a good push when you are single to try new things and take advantage of making meaningful use of your time being single.
[29:41] Do you enjoy being single? Jade explains that she cannot compare much because it has been quite some time since she has been single. Also, most of her relationships didn't end well which helped her understand that relationships are hard work, however, there are pros and cons of being single. Don't ever feel pressured by anybody, there's nothing wrong with being single.
[36:40] Deniece believes it is important to have companionship to discuss the negative things happening in your life, rather than always pouring all of it on the person you are dating. You can find companionship in friends.
[37:47] What is a soulmate? Our hosts agree that a soulmate is someone you can be open and honest with, even at your worst, who would still love you. Usually, this kind of person is often difficult to find. Jade shares that people who find their soulmates are fortunate, lucky, or blessed.
[41:17] Final thoughts on "How to be single": Be comfortable in spending time with yourself, surround yourself with friends who are also single to draw strength and inspiration from them. Pursue something meaningful with your time while single.
[43:00] A quote from Mandy Hale: "Single" is no longer a lack of options but a choice, a choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day happily and let your ever after work itself out. Listeners are encouraged to check out more content for singles from Mandy Hale.
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